If your house burns down and you get upset, does it bring
your house back? What’s so doesn’t care if you're upset; it’s up to you how you
handle what’s so. There is no confusion in what’s so. When you don’t know you
just don't know — there is no confusion there. There’s nothing right or wrong
about whars so. What’s so is always open to different interpretations. There’s
always just what’s so, and then you have an interpretation. What scares you
isn’t what’s so, it's your interpretation. The interpretation is never true;
what's so is real, the interpretation is not.
Who you're being is just who you’re being, and what’s so
doesn’t care if you’re happy with it or not, so why should you? When you’re not
being with what’s so, that’s also just what’s so. Why should you concern
yourself? Other people should always be the way they’re being; if you think
they shouldn’t, that’s your interpretation. Bring yourself back to what’s so
about them. Until you can be with what’s so, you can’t be with anything or
anyone. You may have control over other people’s what’s so, but none over their
interpretation — give it up.
If you take action or not, it’s still just what’s so. If
it works out well or not. it’s still just what’s so. You can never make a right
or wrong decision, or take a right or wrong action. Whatever you do will always
bring you more of what’s so, and then you have an interpretation about it.
Whatever you don’t have, so what? Whatever you’ve done or thought in the past,
again so what? Whatever happens in the future is not to be feared. It’s just
going to be more of what’s so. The challenge is to spend as much time in what’s
so as you can. The chatter in your head is more interpretation, and it has
nothing to do with what’s so. There’s nothing wrong with the chatter, it's just
you listening to a fantasy.
The thought that there is something wrong is an illusion;
there is nothing wrong, there is only what’s so. Notice when you’re comparing
what’s so to some fantasy of how it should be. Bring yourself back to what’s so
and it will be O.K. Ask yourself what’s so and align with that. Align with
what’s so and it will not matter. That is the foundation of transformation and
satisfaction. Not aligning with what’s so is the only thing that will ever
bring you hardship or suffering. Life in what’s so will bring you harmony,
grace, and balance. Ask yourself — what’s so about your situation?
Werner Erhard
